It is the decision to award Morgentaler the Order of Canada, she says, that has got her asking why abortion is still surrounded by an almost deafening silence. “Why,” she asks, “is it acceptable to sit around a dinner table and talk about colonoscopies, hot flashes and Viagra, but not about our abortion experiences? Why don’t I know whether any of the women in my book club have had an abortion when I’m familiar with so many other intimate details of their lives?”
Cochran goes on to relate several more anecdotes about women who have obtained abortions who have been loathe to speak about the experience, despite being confirmedly pro-abortion.
Amongst these women is one of Canada’s foremost pro-abortion activists – Joyce Arthur of the Abortion Rights Coalition. At the age of 30 Arthur aborted her unborn child, a decision that she says “was the best decision I could have made at the time.” Despite this, however, Arthur avoided publicly admitting that she had gone through with the procedure for many years – even until long after she became a well-known pro-abortion activist.
In fact, it wasn’t until Arthur was giving a live radio interview and was asked straight-up if she had had an abortion that she finally came clean. “Out of the blue the host asked me, ‘Have you had an abortion yourself?’” she relates, “and I hesitated and said, ‘Yes.’ It felt good, over all. I realized that was important. Too many women are silent, and there’s nothing to be ashamed of, so why not just talk about it? I was in a position to set an example.”
But despite Arthur’s example and the efforts of numerous other pro-abortion activists and organizations to normalize the procedure by encouraging women to publicly talk about their own abortions, Cochran admits that most women would rather stay silent…. (Source)
Recently a friend of mine attended a pro-life conference in the U.S. where a former feminist was giving her testimony. The speaker, having had an abortion herself, knew the signs to look for in women who were strongly pro-abortion. She recounted one story at a pro-abortion rally where she happened to pass by a woman who was holding a pro-abortion sign and shouting across the street at some pro-life demonstrators. She walked up to the pro-abort demonstrator and told her quite simply that she should stop being angry because of her abortion. Stunned at the comment, the woman dropped her sign and ran off.
Considering their shrill and wild tone, I’ve long wondered how many female leftist bloggers have had abortions themselves. I suspect a healthy number of them have, but few, if any, have ever talked about it.
Even pro-abort women don’t want to be reminded of what they did.
The sad thing, of course, is that only by talking about it can the door be opened for eventual healing and forgiveness.
The one thing that sustains abortion is the shame that undergirds it. If the shame were overcome and forgiveness sought, abortion would fall overnight.