We’ve all heard the phrase “making love”, but it’s not used much anymore. I think it went out of vogue in the ’80s or perhaps even the ’70s. Today, we’re more into technical phrases for sex. We need to be more descriptive, of course, because with the proliferation of pornography and subsequent legalization of sodomy, we’ve had to widen our vocabulary in polite society. What kind of sex do we have? Well, there’s oral sex and anal sex. There’s masturbation and beastie sex. There’s groupie sex and snuff sex. And then there’s just plain old intercourse.
But there was a time when that cheesy phrase, “making love”, actually meant something significant because it pointed to the reality of what sex was, or at least, was supposed to be. Sex was about love. And love meant sacrifice. In contemporary society today, of course, sex is not about love. Sex is about using another person for orgasmic gratification apart from sacrifice.
In our times, sex is not about “making love” but rather “making war”.
Indeed, if we survey the sex scene in today’s culture, what do we see and read? We read about having “safe sex”. We need to have “safe sex” because sex has apparently become dangerous, otherwise why would we need to have sex that was “safe”? So we are told that we must “protect” ourselves. But that begs the question: from what are we to protect ourselves? Do we not protect ourselves from an attack of some sort? Yes, this particular attack is from sexually transmitted diseases. Therefore, it’s a war. “The War Against AIDS” and other sexually transmitted diseases. But this war, the sex authorities tell us, is on two fronts, not just one. The other front of this war is the war on pregnancy. That’s kind of a disease too that we need to fight against, they tell us. An unwanted pregnancy is almost as bad as an STD so they say. Therefore, we must also be protected against this attack as well.
So if you are in a war, you need some defense, some protection. What kind of protection do we need in this sex war to protect us from STDs and pregnancy? The sex authorities tell us to use latex as “protection”. A condom, in other words. It will provide us with a defense against the STDs and “baby bombs” that might fall on us. There’s even a brand called “Trojan Condoms” that puts us in the right frame of mind for this particular battle. (Personally, I think this latex defense is one big fat lie. But I don’t think they want to admit to the troops that their latex defense is no defense at all. If they did, it would demoralize everyone. There might even be mass suicide because the despair would be so great. So they keep it under wraps…so to speak).
But now I’m getting all confused. I thought sex was about making love, not engaging in war. When you make love, your defenses are supposed to come down. Everything is stripped naked and vulnerable, not sheathed up in latex awaiting the “battle”. But if this sex war is the kind of thing going on externally in the flesh, what is the psychological state of the persons engaging in it like? When a couple has natural sex, they are open to conception of another human being. That is the essence of the sexual act: where love actually becomes another person. The sexual act is an act of harmony and unity. It begets a beginning and a new life through nature. In contrast to this, the act of war does the exact opposite. The name itself tells us something about the nature of the act. Contra-ception : literally “against the beginning…against life” where conflict and death are nurtured in an artificially constructed environment.
When you go to war, there’s usually some form of bodily mutilation and destruction. That’s certainly true in the sex wars we play with one another. The very act of these medical procedures does unnecessary violence to the human body.
There’s the fallout of the birth control pill which leads to breast cancer and other diseases.
There’s the fallout of the vascectomy and tubal ligation whose effects are still being debated. In fact, there’s quite a debate raging over the possible link between vascetomies to prostate cancer, although it is disputed by some other studies. Whatever the outcome of these studies are, men are now breaking the silence of what vasectomies have done to them. Some of them are even losing their minds over it.
There’s the fallout of the failure rate of condoms which have catastrophic effects on those who rely on them for a false sense of security. Then, of course, there’s abortion. That’s the fallout when your sexual organs have not been protected when the trojans didn’t hold the line. Abortion is the nuclear bomb that cleans things up and ensures no “enemy” trooper makes it to your home base. In calling it a nuclear bomb, I guess this description kind of relates to what Blessed (Mother) Theresa of Calcutta alluded to when she said that abortion was the prelude to nuclear war. Makes sense, doesn’t it? Wipe out the innocent in the womb. Wipe out the innocent in the world. Did I mention that abortion is the best predictor of breast cancer too?
In this war, the sex authorities have proposed the above “shields” against the weapon that is attacking us. In the ”battle front” against pregnancy, for example, the sperm is the defacto weapon of the enemy. If the sperm successfully penetrates our contraceptive defenses, then we must call out the “big heavy” of abortion to wipe out any successful assault. But if the sperm is the weapon of the enemy, who is the actual enemy launching this assault? That would be the woman’s sex partner – the man. We really don’t conceive of people who are performing actions which we normally associate with “making love” as really “making war” instead. The same action of hugging someone one can turn into a violent mocking by strangling the person. A loving caress turns into a strangulation. And that’s what’s going on when we “make war” instead of love through sex.
When we “make love”, the language of the body tells the truth of who we are and how we are created. There is a total self sacrifice and reciprocation of what we are to the other person. We give ourselves completely and totally as nature has revealed us to be. When we make love, the unity and harmony is so intense that love is actually personified. In contrast, when we “make war” we lie to our partner about who we really are. We suppress our fertility. We hold back our gift of selves and distort what the natural act of sex says we are doing. Sex is an act of unity in part because our fertility binds us to the other person in fundamental way by conceiving in us another person. In the act of war, there is no unity but only separation. And that’s what contraception is at its core: a separation. It physically separates what nature has bound together. Whether it’s a condom, pill, or mutilation of a sexual organ. There is a violent separation so that unity may not occur with the other person. And we see that separation in the act of sex being played out long after the act is consummated. Because contraception is a lie, because it is a war, we see the fruits of both in the marriage itself. Where contraception is, divorce is also. The sex authorities don’t tell you that engaging in contraception means that the chances of divorce are exponentially much higher. But since the sexual revolution (another war term if there ever was one), that’s exactly what’s happened. And why shouldn’t it be? War is about propaganda, lies, and ultimately separation. It’s all about collateral damage too. In the case of divorce, they’re called “children”. When you keep engaging in sexual war, you can’t expect to be married or together forever. That kind of explains why couples don’t stay together anymore. War, after all, can only last so long before things start to fall apart.
You see, it’s all about war in your body and through your sexual organs. There are different kinds of war, of course. There are the conventional kinds of wars with real guns and bullets and bombs. Then there’s the 21st century “war” that is fought through sex. If you look at what war is trying to accomplish – the subjection of a population or the overthrow of a political philosophy, I’d say the West is near the end of its own civil war: the de-population war. Its population has been decimated and now, coincidentally, the values which under-girded and strengthened it are now struggling to survive.
There will be no facet of society that will be left untouched by the demographic implosion brought about by this war – whether that is the labour pools, pension plans, health care services, or even our fundamental freedoms because we won’t reproduce and then transmit the teaching to future generations. Social liberals who bleat on and on about being “anti-war” have been, in fact, the biggest war-mongers in the history of the world. And right now, our society is being decimated by their war games.
The West has been concerned with external threats to its existence. For the first 40 years after the Second World War, it was Communism. For the past number of years, it’s been Islamic Jihad. But for all the threats of nuclear annihilation in the past and even today, who needs a nuclear bomb when a latex condom will do?