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From the Institute of Marriage and Family Canada:

Myths about income splitting a disservice to Canadian families

June 25, 2014, Ottawa — The Institute of Marriage and Family Canada is debunking myths about income splitting with its new report, released today.

An array of respected authors contributed to Busting income splitting myths: Income splitting is a viable option to help Canadian families come Budget 2015.  In it, they respond to false arguments brought forth by political and special interest groups on the proposed tax policy.

One common myth is that income splitting would help very few families, and only the rich.
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Ro-oh.  Could this be the big pendulum swing back?

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We pray for the victims and families of the latest mass shooting in the US.

While the media side-steps the tough questions, we can’t fail to point out that this shooter, like almost every other before him, came from a broken family.

No wonder he couldn’t talk to his parents about it. They had been divorced when he was seven – a moment which he fingered as the beginning of his inner torment. But his father – who worked in Hollywood films – quickly found another girlfriend. This seems to have warped Rodgers’ view of women, sexuality and relationships. “Males who can easily find female mates garner more respect from their fellow men, even children,” he wrote. “How ironic is it that my father, one of those men who could easily find a girlfriend, has a son who would struggle all his life to find a girlfriend.”

Behind the deluded self-pity, it seems clear that Elliot Rodger was a lonely youngster starved for a father and shaken to the core by his parents’ divorce. A curious boy who had no one to talk to about the facts of life. A sick teenager who had no one to guide him through adolescent temptations.

It’s a familiar story. Most of the men on the never-ending list of rampage killers in the Unites States came from homes where the parents were divorced or separated. Predictably, their own relationships were fraught as well. Here are a few of the latest tragedies:

John Zawahiri, 23, killed five people in Santa Monica in 2013 near and on the campus of a state college. His parents had been separated for years.

In December 2012, Adam Lanza, 20, killed his mother, six staff at a Connecticut primary school, and 20 school children before shooting himself. His parents were divorced.

Also in December 2012, 22-year-old Jacob Roberts ran amok in a Portland, Oregon, shopping mall. He killed two people with an automatic rifle before committing suicide. He had never known his mother and was raised by a divorced aunt and her husband who shared custody of him.

Wade Page was a white supremacist who shot six Sikhs dead in Milwaukee before being killed by a police officer earlier in August 2012. His parents were divorced.

In October 2011 a California man, 41-year-old Scott Evans Dekraai walked into his ex-wife’s hair salon and shot her and seven other people dead. His parents were divorced.

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Love can bring back a baby to life.

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In an essay for the Institute for Family Studies last December, called “Even for Rich Kids, Marriage Matters,” University of Virginia sociologist W. Bradford Wilcox reported that children in high-income households who experienced family breakups don’t fare as well emotionally, psychologically, educationally or, in the end, economically as their two-parent-family peers.

That’s an interesting result because the emotional, psychological and educational problems of these kids can’t be blamed on the usual whipping boy, i.e. poverty. But there’s more research:

Abuse, behavioral problems and psychological issues of all kinds, such as developmental behavior problems or concentration issues, are less common for children of married couples than for cohabiting or single parents, according to a 2003 Centers for Disease Control study of children’s health. The causal pathways are about as clear as those from smoking to cancer. (Source)

So it’s not just about having two adults in the home, because children of cohabiting parents don’t do as well as children of married couples.

A lot of people get defensive when they see research like this. In fact, they often delve deep into denialism, because many people are cohabiting and they don’t like their lifestyle being challenged. They take it personally, as if they’re being accused of being a bad parent. We need to move beyond such emotionalism and focus on the scientific realities exposed by decades of research.

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Great quote:

In order to have a clear vision about the person that you are courting, it is so important to be chaste in courtship so all those hormones and such don’t confuse you. If your relationship is purely based on sex, you become blinded by your emotions and it is harder to break-up with that person, even when you know they aren’t right for you… The trouble is people often mistake lust for love. To really trust someone takes time. Hormones don’t know about time. (Source)

 

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Suppose a scientific conference on cancer prevention never addressed smoking, on the grounds that in a free society you can’t change private behavior, and anyway, maybe the statistical relationships between smoking and cancer are really caused by some other third variable. Wouldn’t some suspect that the scientists who raised these claims were driven by something—ideology, tobacco money—other than science?

Yet in the current discussions about increased inequality, few researchers, fewer reporters, and no one in the executive branch of government directly addresses what seems to be the strongest statistical correlate of inequality in the United States: the rise of single-parent families during the past half century. (Source)

The same holds true in Canada.Statistics Canada’s own figures show that single-parent families are a huge source of poverty and fare much worse than two-parent families. Check this out:

About 571,000 children aged 17 and under, or 8.5% lived in low income in 2011, also unchanged from 2010. For children in lone-parent families headed by a woman, the incidence was 23.0%, while for children living in two-parent families, the incidence was 5.9%, both unchanged from 2010. (Source)

So children in lone-parent families headed by a woman, virtually the only type of single-parent family, have a poverty incidence roughly four times as high as families with two parents (note: it’s two parents, not two income-earners, although many may have two income-earners). These single parents are almost always the result of broken families, with the father often abandoning his responsibilities and leaving the mother to fend by herself with the kids.

This is a huge poverty burden on women. Yet, the media, policymakers and politicians choose to ignore the matter. They pretend that more government programs will solve the problem. Well, here’s a news flash for you: we already have tons of programs in place, and we keep adding more, but the problem isn’t going away because we’re not attacking the root cause.

We need to start a discussion on the complex issue of how to fix our families. Just because there’s no simple solution doesn’t mean we should bury our heads in the dirt as to what the causes are.

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Folks, I want to thank you all for your prayers, and I think in the future I will keep the blog out of my personal affairs.  Don’t get me wrong, I really do need and appreciate the prayers.  In fact, if I may say so, I feel like Superman right now!  No kidding.  There’s a lot of holy people praying for me right now, and what can I say but thank you! I can certainly experience God’s peace through this.  I actually feel kind of guilty in “stealing” your time.

No problems with my health, and family is in tact.  So, those are the important things and I give thanks that those things are still in tact.  Isn’t everything else second banana?  Sorry for worrying some of you.  I am very touched that so many of you have expressed personal support.

My problem is a “little” legal problem (not related to blogging) I need to extradite myself from.    But the good news is since I’m a blogger, I know the legal ropes.  8-)

I always knew being a blogger would pay off one day.   Helps develop thick skin to punch back.

God Bless.

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“Nightmare – The Sequel” is about to befall me and my family. Would like Socon or Bust readers to pray for us.

Thank you.

Blogging will be lighter than usual.

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Incredible. One of the best presentations on the subject of sex and contraception.  These guys deserve a medal for this presentation.

 

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One of the best kept secrets.…that modern society will never accept.  And it doesn’t accept it because it does not understand the beautiful complementarity of men and women.  Different yet equal in dignity.

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Something is terribly wrong, yet we don’t hear our leaders addressing the issue.

More often than not, what we’re hearing is issues like the environment and poverty.

And yet the crisis we face is really not about the family, but fatherhood.

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Uh oh.  Feminists will not be happy.

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I’m a great fan of technology, but I worry about it’s widespread use by young kids. One of my nephews, for example, can barely read and write, but he can work an iPad like it’s nobody’s business. He couldn’t throw a ball to save his life, but he can control a joystick like a ninja with some nunchaku. In fact, he spends almost all his free time playing video games. He has little patience for trucks, action figures, drawing, legos, etc.

This certainly can have important effects in various aspects of a child’s life, from physical conditioning to social skills. Below are some quotes from Crisis Magazine discussing the cons of technology in the classroom. I have no expertise in those areas, but I am an economist who studies innovation and economic growth. From my perspective, I can see some drawbacks of this precocious submersion into technology. Read the rest of this entry »

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This is very moving. Watch the video below to see a child with his new robotic fingers. Full story here.

Below is a second video of perhaps the most advanced commercially-available robotic limb in the world today. New hope for people with disabilities.

 

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From shootings at MIT (i.e., the Tsarnaev brothers) to the University of Central Florida to the Ronald E. McNair Discovery Learning Academy in Decatur, Ga., nearly every shooting over the last year in Wikipedia’s “list of U.S. school attacks” involved a young man whose parents divorced or never married in the first place.

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Thankfully, most boys growing up in fatherless families are peaceful, but it only takes a handful to wreak havoc and destroy so many lives.

Liberals immediately retort : “so what are we supposed to do, ban divorce?” There are no simplistic solutions to the problem, but it would be unwise to thereby ignore the true root of the issue. And yes, we would need to make some difficult decisions and cultural changes regarding family life. There’s no other way. Government can’t save us, that much we’ve learned over the last 40 years or so.

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A few months ago, the Ontario government announced with much pomp that research was showing that the new full-day kindergarten program was an unbelievable success.

Sadly, reality is proving otherwise. A few weeks after the announcement, the government made public the actual studies, which show a much more nuanced and underwhelming story. You’d think the government hadn’t read the studies.

In short, special needs kids appear to do better under the program, but the rest of the kids (the vast majority of children) do no better and are actually worse off in some respects. This is important for the fate of your kids as the government plans to expand the program. It’s also important for your wallet, because Ontario can’t afford the billion-plus dollars this is costing.

Read the full story here.

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